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We'd have sex, we'd get closer, he'd disappear, I'd get confused, he'd come back, I'd let it go and repeat.
If I have sex with someone to whom I have absolutely no emotional connection, I'm kind of just phoning it in. I'd honestly just rather watch Netflix by myself than fake an orgasm with some random guy from Tinder.I want to date a CEO, someone who will treat me well, or someone my parents will like.On the other hand, I want to have sex with a guy who is covered in tattoos, will ask to borrow rent money, and who will never call me again.When I go for guys who can't commit, they leave, therefore validating my misguided assumption that if I let someone in, I will inevitably get hurt.This is called counter dependency, which I have written about before. If we go for people with whom we know it won't work out, it hurts less than putting ourselves out there with someone it actually might work out with.
It's not a coincidence that the guys with whom I've had the best sex are the ones I also like as people. When casual sex starts to turn into "friends with benefits," or anything in that category, it's great for a short period of time, but it has an expiration date.